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Boys and Girls

Recently, I had a conversation that went something like this:

“Have you ever been in a situation in which a guy says, ‘A,’ and he really just means ‘A’? But the you interpret ‘A’ as ‘A, B, C, D, and E’?” I asked to my female friend.

“Yeah, definitely. I feel like girls do that all the time, but guys usually don’t,’” she said.

The male friend sitting next to her gave her a weird look and laughed. “No way. We do that way more than girls do — the whole overanalyzing thing.”

It’s interesting how opposite genders have vastly different perspectives of each other and of themselves when it comes to certain topics. This conversation alone illustrates how, more often than not, we assume — we jump to conclusions, and we skip the vital step in communication that helps us better understand the opposite gender (and avoid a lot of awkward misunderstandings).

Part of the reason why we make these assumptions is that we already have predetermined ideas in mind. Gender stereotypes are reinforced by our popular songs and movies and books, especially when it comes to the typical high school romance: the image of the girl who bottles up her emotions and expects the guy to figure it out, and the apathetic guy who just doesn’t get it.

Yet when we do take a step back and truly look at the reasoning behind our conclusions, we find that there really isn’t adequate evidence to support them. Girls, of course, aren’t mind manipulators who find some sort of twisted satisfaction in toying with the sanity of others. Guys, of course, couldn’t possibly be so simplistic that they completely ignore emotions of all kinds.

We’re not equal, either, and we certainly do not share the same perspective just because, “at the end of the day, we’re all human.” Differences in viewpoints between genders do exist (that is not necessarily a bad thing), just not in the misleading ways that we are so accustomed to. Maybe the opposite gender has always been such an enigma to us because we fail to communicate our differences. So, hey — the perspective of the opposite gender called. It wants to make sure that you acknowledge its existence.

By Michelle Chang, Opinion editor


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