Four Types of Parenting Styles

Each parenting style employs a different approach to discipline and each has its pros and cons. So let’s take a step back  and appreciate our parents whether they be the seemingly lackluster, authoritative parents or the fun, permissive parents.

Authoritative Parenting

The relationships are reciprocal despite the fact that the parents have high expectations of their children.

Pro:  Authoritative parents remain responsive to their children as there remains some exceptions to the rules they set. The relationship between the children and their parents is reciprocal, responsive and high in bidirectional communication.  The parents remain accepting and child-centered. Their children grow up to be confident, assertive, socially responsible, empathetic and high achieving in academics.

Con: The parents are demanding and hold a rigorous standard and moral code for their children; authoritative parents may come across as the “helicopter” parents. They are persistent and may even be pushy as they set boundaries and rules, such as chores and curfews.

Authoritarian Parenting

The relationships are power-assertive and there are generally no exceptions to the rules set by the parents.

Pro: Children who grow up with authoritarian parents tend to follow the rules much of the time. They are expected to be obedient and respectful under all circumstances.

Con: The relationship is controlling and high in unidirectional communication. The suggestions of their children are ignored.  They grow up to be less confident and mistrustful of others. Adolescents lack the ability to socialize and concentrate well in school. They also fail to develop problem-solving and decision-making skills.

Permissive Parenting

The relationship is indulgent and low in control attempts.

Pro: Void of any control attempts, the children grow up to have high self-esteems and are decisive. They are bold in their opinions and are more inclined to voice their feelings. Adolescents are given the freedom to learn from first-hand experiences.

Con: The parents’ low expectations of their children may result in a lower interest in school and a lack of responsibility. These adolescents are inclined to be impulsive and thus have trouble keeping the friends they make.

Uninvolved Parenting

The relationship is rejecting or neglecting.

Pro: The children are given the freedom to learn everything from first-hand experiences.

Con: The relationship is neglecting, rejecting or uninvolved.  The children grow up with very low self-esteem and are most likely to become withdrawn from their peers. They may feel resentful or hateful toward both themselves and those around them. Uninvolved parenting leads to a distrust of others, a concealment of true feelings and a disrespect for others. Adolescents are more than likely to perform poorly academically.


By Lisa Shen, Opinion editor 

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